Friday, September 11, 2015

Adventures

If I had no bills to pay I would spend my days exploring and having adventure with my closest friends, taking pictures all along the way.

Sunday, August 30, 2015

Thoughts of the Day: August 30th

Thought #1: I can't believe it's already almost September. I say that constantly, but August seemed to truly fly by. With starting a new job and getting used to some other changes it has all been a blur the past few weeks.

Thought #2: Where is the balance between letting what will happen happen and going out there and getting what you want? Since all you can control is yourself and what you do there are times where patience is completely necessary to get to where/what you want, but what's that balance? When do you simply give up control and stay positive that you'll get to where you need/want to be?

Thought #3: I've been trying to get back in shape and was doing really well until my ankle started acting up pretty bad. I had Achilles issues three years ago that started during preseason of my college season. I wasn't able to do much about them and didn't want to miss the season so I played through them and ended up in a boot for 6 months after the season ended. Since it flares up here and there, but the past week or so has been by far the worst it's been since that initial time. Tis frustrating.

Thought #4: I have a good feeling about this week, I think it's going to go well :)

Sunday, August 23, 2015

Days like today...

Today was just one of those days where nothing really went right.

Woke up just feeling crappy. Tried to shake myself out of it but was very stuck.

Decided to head to the library to grab the next book in the series I'm reading and the library didn't open for another hour. Drove around, killed some time at one of my favorite spots by the lake, went back to the library and they still weren't open. Turns out they're not open on Sunday's during the summer, but silly me just checked on the little window that opens in Google and it said "open today 1-5" because those are their non-summer Sunday hours. Woof.

Came home, tried to take a nap and feel better and just couldn't sleep. Drew a bit, wrote a bit, tried to clean up my room, ANYTHING to get out of my funk and it just wasn't working.

Finally it was the time I was supposed to be meeting up with a friend when she got off work. She completely blew me off. I even texted her and got nothing. Not the first time it's happened, so I guess I shouldn't be too surprised, but she's the one who initiated this and has been complaining to me that I haven't made time to see her, so.....

Was supposed to pick up said book I was looking for from a friend later in the evening, turned out he wasn't able to find his copy.

So now I'm sitting her blogging and writing and hoping to get a good night's rest and feel better in the morning. Hopefully I'll get a solid start to the week tomorrow rather than the crappy Monday I had last week that lead to a not-so-fun continuous week.

Fingers crossed. Deep breaths. Let's get a fresh start tomorrow.

Thoughts of the Day - 8/23

Thought #1 - Noticing the quality of some of the friends in my life has a downside - I've noticed how lacking some of my other friends are in certain areas. I know that sounds terrible, but honestly it has just made me see how poorly some of my friends treat me and our friendship and made me realize I may need to re-prioritize and adjust expectations.

Thought #2 - The weather was gorgeous today. Nice and cool this morning, then did warm up and had some beautiful sunshine for the day and now it's cooling down again. The greatness of summer with the start of the welcoming arms of Autumn :)

Thought #3 - Yesterday I Skyped with a couple of my friends overseas and it really hit me how much I miss them. Definitely need to start saving up to go see them asap!!!

Saturday, August 22, 2015

Thoughts of the Day - 8/22/15

Thought #1 - Very ready to transition to having my own place, and my family is too. I've been looking but now looking by myself for a one bedroom the amount I'll have to spend is scaring me a bit and I'm wrapping my head around what I'll need to do to afford it. I've been living not having to worry about how much I spend and how often I go out with friends, I'm definitely going to have to tighten that up. Part of growing up.

Thought #2 - It can be tough to separate being upset over a situation and actually being mad at a person involved in that situation. I'm upset over a situation and although I understand why a friend had to do what they did, I'm still upset. I'm trying not to be mad at that friend because I do understand the big picture reasons it happened, but I'm super frustrated at the timing that it happened and how it went down. So I'm working on separating the two and maintaining that friendship.

Thought #3 - I'm at that in between stage where I really enjoy being single but am also lonely at times and really wish I had a boyfriend. Like I don't want to constantly be with someone else and I am very used to being independent and on my own, but I think I'm getting to a point where I'm ready to have that person by my side again. Now I just have to figure things out with the person I've had feelings for for a while....

Thought #4 - Life talks are wonderful. The past week I've had a few with a couple different people and they've really helped me clear my head about a couple things. And even if that talk doesn't lead you to a solution about some of the trouble you've been facing, sometimes just saying it out loud and getting support from someone can help an immense amount. Grateful for my friends that offered me their ears this week :)

Thursday, August 20, 2015

Thoughts of the Day - August 20th, 2015

1. I am a very goal oriented person and I think many of the struggles I had when I graduated was that I had no more concrete, easy to define, clear goals in my path. I am setting a goal to set more goals for myself! Small ones, big ones, everything in between - because of the way I am I think I need something concrete and track-able.

2. I know it's been on here before, but I have amazing people in my life that I am so very grateful for.

3. Tomorrow is Friday :)

You is important

Why is the first thing to go when we get stressed self care and self love?

I've had a really rough past couple weeks and today it truly hit me how much I've let that stop me from doing things that make me feel good which only intensifies the problems.

I get stressed and I stop tracking my food and eating right. I stop working out. I stop writing. I stop taking and editing photos. I stop being organized.

So when I feel bad I stop doing the things that make me feel good which, well, kind of makes me feel even less good.


So quick note to self and whoever is out there - self care is even more important when you're down than when you're up. Make yourself a priority, especially if there are others that count on you. I now work in a job where I help broken people all day long, if I let myself tumble how I am supposed to help them? It's not selfish to put yourself first, many times it's simply being responsible.

Monday, August 10, 2015

Concert Photo Blog

Hey there - if you like live music and/or photography I just finally got my photography blog and some social media sites up and running:

https://hlowphoto.tumblr.com
https://instagram.com/hlowphoto
https://twitter.com/hlowphoto


Check them out and let me know what you think! I'm still editing about 20 shots that I got this past weekend at a show and will hopefully continue to grow what I'm shooting and posting!

Sunday, August 9, 2015

Letting go...

Something I've been thinking a lot about this weekend is letting go of things and moving on. Sometimes it's easy and wonderful and you're looking forward to the change, and other times is scary and uncomfortable. Then there are those times when you know you need to for your own good but it's difficult because although the negatives are weighing on you, you don't want to lose the positives.

Whether it be a job, a relationship, a friendship, a living situation, whatever the case may be, letting go is a flurry of emotions.


About three months ago I hit a brick wall and realized how badly I was doing at my job. Not in job performance, I was excelling there, but in myself. I was moody, stressed, incredibly anxious, and just altogether not doing well as me. Looking back I was behaving and feeling this way for a long time, but was so caught up in it that I didn't even notice.

Now that I have a new position that I am so far loving I feel a complete change in myself. My stress levels, my anxiety, my happiness, my motivation, everything has flipped around in the desired direction. Now, I try to not let my job define me too too much, but regardless of how much we try to separate work and personal life you have to recognize that what you do does affect you greatly, so this change has been huge for me.

This has happened to me in a romantic relationship as well - things were going very well for a period of time and then all of a sudden, months later, I had an epiphany where I realized how unhappy I was and why. In retrospect, it was an emotionally abusive relationship, and the other party turned that blame on me for another period of time during which I didn't recognize what was happening and took to heart that it was my fault for feeling this way and that I alone could make things better. That way of thinking was wrong, and when I finally got myself away from it and out of the relationship I really realized how much better things were moving forward.

I've also recently experienced this with friendships, and I think I'm going to have to soon again as well. I've met some really amazing people the past few months and have grown closer with friends that I had but didn't really see much. Throughout the past two months I've really learned the value of having fewer good friends that more not-so-good friends. I've learned that having a small group that I trust and am at ease with is far better than trying to see tons of different people and keep up with so many friends from school that I was never truly connecting with.

I think soon I'm going to have to face one of the challenging "letting go" times though. I have someone who was, for a short period of time, one of my closest friends. But since that short period of time, now looking back, I'm realizing how difficult our 'friendship' has actually been for me. I'm also realizing that although I valued our friendship in the past, and there are times when I've truly leaned on this person, that anymore this friendship is toxic to me. I didn't realize it sooner because I was so focused on hanging onto the good times but after today and venting and really looking back with a mutual friend I've come to this difficult truth.


Lately I've also been recognizing how letting go of bad things really can re-open your life to be able to bring more good back into it. Whether it was me quitting my job that had me on the road 85% of the time and often working over 70 hours a week, or me letting go of a 'friend' who was really damaging my spirit and happiness I've found that the last three or four weeks I've felt lighter and happier than I have in a long time. I've spent some more time on hobbies like photography and painting. I've invested into quality time with that smaller group of closer friends and made some incredible connections and memories. And I've had some time to reflect on life and what I want from it, and what it may take to get there.

I guess the moral of the story is sometimes you do truly have to just let go of something - it may be difficult at first, but if it's the right thing and you're freeing yourself you'll be opening yourself up for so many other amazing things.

Don't beat yourself up if it takes you a while to recognize when it's time to move on, when you're right in the middle of the situation it can be difficult to have perspective and easy to be too caught up in what's going on to face it down. But recognize your value and rid your life of all the toxicity that you can - do you and be happy.

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Adulting Is a Challenge Sometimes (Always)

I haven't written for a while and there's been a lot going on.

One thing I'm more sure of than ever before is that being an adult is the most challenging thing I've ever done. I love certain aspects and am trying to have as much fun as possible to balance out all the stress I've been under, but it's been a bit overwhelming lately.

So this post is just about how challenging it can be to be an adult. You're expected to know what's going on. I rarely do. Even with new things, like my new job that started just last week, you're not treated like you're new or a kid - which on one hand is great, but on the other hand, uhhh terrifying! One word: bills. Decisions are more difficult to make because, guess what, they're bigger and scarier.

I'm rambling now, but I guess the point is just that I'm going through a lot right now. I'm doing my best to manage and will hopefully turn back to this to share some of those thoughts and write out more and more.



Wednesday, July 15, 2015

"...adjust your focus."



As a photographer and a quote lover I found this one and really latched onto it.

Also, as someone who is still trying to figure out this whole 'adult' thing I found that this message resonated within me strongly.

There are so many times in life when we find ourselves feeling out of whack. Unclear where to go next, unsure of how to process recent events, and just altogether 'blurry.' I've been going through a pretty rough patch of that lately and wasn't really sure how to shake it.

I'm not sure what I want my long term career to be, I'm not sure where I want to live geographically, and I'm not sure what steps to take to get somewhere I can't identify. Never before in my life have I lacked a goal to work towards. Whether it be what soccer team I wanted to be good enough to play for, getting good enough grades and test scores to get into any college I wanted, graduating with a degree, progressing to leadership roles, etc. etc. - I've always had a goal. With a goal you can make a plan, with a plan you can take action, and with those actions you can provide clarity in your own life.

I was seriously lacking that and struggling because of it. I've always been goal oriented and someone who needs to tangibly track progress and achievement and I just had no grounds on which to do so.

Then I went out of town to coach this past weekend. I had an amazing time (you can read about it here if you missed my post) and realized that I could use that experience to adjust my focus a bit and get out of this blurry space I've been in.

I realigned myself with what I enjoy, big picture what I want out of life, and then went back to the basics of what makes me happy. It took me a bit longer than I would have preferred to adjust my focus, but once I did it worked a miracle on my mentality. Now that I have some clarity and focus, just as in a photo, I can steer myself to the right place to get the story across and get to where I want to go.



So, always remember - "When life gets blurry, adjust your focus."

Monday, July 13, 2015

Thoughts of the Day - July 13th

Thought #1: Everything is happening all at once and I think my head may explode! Good and bad and all over the place, the next few weeks are going to be intense.

Thought #2: On said note, with all I have to do, all I want to do is veg out and watch Netflix. I've been constantly moving for the last three weeks at least and I just want a day or at least a full evening where all I do is chill. Read or Netflix or nap or whatever, just chill. Hopefully I'll steal away at least one weeknight this week to do so, but we'll see.

Thought #3: Our culture over complicates life so much. We are taught to worry about so much and yada yada when sometimes all you want to do is get on a plane and go find something to do that you love yet you worry about all these other pieces parts. It should be simple enough for us to say 'if you want something go get it/do it,' but it just really isn't in most cases. It is, but it takes a lot more concern than it should.

Thought #4: Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz (nap time) (I wish)

When Monday comes too soon...

You know those weekends that make it difficult to return to reality Monday morning?

Whether it was relaxing and you just enjoyed the fact that you didn't have to be at work or running from appointment to appointment, or you had a really great time with fun people that you wish could keep going, or it was just productive in a way that brought a lot of satisfaction (or anything in between or otherwise) sometimes heading to bed Sunday night signals the end to something great and the start of something you'd rather put off.

I had a weekend of that sort, but I'm recognizing that it transcended deeper than just having a good time - I had a great time doing something I love and need to work to build into my life more.


This weekend I had the opportunity to be an assistant coach for two teams at the Region II Regional Showcase in Rockford, IL. We left early Thursday morning, drove out and checked into the dorms we were staying in at Rockford University, then each team had a game that late afternoon/evening. Friday each team had a game and a training session, Saturday each a game and a Coaches Panel to attend, then yesterday each had their final game of the tournament. We had some rough patches but overall the tournament went well and I think both groups enjoyed themselves.

Two of the guys I coached got selected to stay over for the hold-over camp where the Regional Coaches look to pull the best from the entire tournament into a Regional Pool to work with and develop more and to choose to move on to higher levels. I was excited for both of the boys that got to stay and am hoping that they enjoy the rest of the week while there.

I learned a lot this weekend – about coaching, about myself as a coach, and how to better guide the players I’m working with. One of the major things I am taking away though is personal – I did not want to come back yesterday. I wanted to stay and continue to coach and work to help the players and show them the game and stay in that environment. I’ve always played and loved soccer and was never sure that I’d enjoy coaching but I did and I’m realizing as I get more and more experience with it that I truly do enjoy it. My takeaway is that, and through that a decision for what I want to do next – continue my education in a sports-psychology related degree and work up in more and more coaching jobs. I think I can see myself thoroughly enjoying a career of coaching – I would love to find myself with a program of my own at the college level in the future when I have gained the knowledge and experience to effectively run one well.

It was another weekend where Monday was a wakeup call, but this time I’m trying to take away a lesson from that wakeup call and mold my life to be made up of what made this weekend so great and not have to worry about waking up Monday morning to go back to the ‘real world,’ because my real world is what I want and makes me happy.

If there’s anything I’ve learned for sure about adulthood so far it’s that nothing ever goes exactly as planned, so I’m sure there will be bumps in the road that I can’t even imagine yet, but I’m hoping once I get moving on this path I’m able to find my way and never stop moving, no matter the forks I hit and the changes in direction it takes.

Monday, July 6, 2015

World Cup Champs!

Didn't get a chance to blog last night, but the USA Women's National Soccer Team won the World Cup!

It was a great game and the first 20 minutes was honestly the best soccer I've seen that team play in the past couple years. They connected and looked so inspired, it was beautiful.

Some of these players have been such role models for me and I'm so happy for them to bring home this title. They earned every bit of it.


Thursday, July 2, 2015

Thoughts of the Day - July 2nd

Thought #1: Got my first speeding ticket this morning. Not exactly the best way to start off my day.

Thought #2: Ready for this long weekend. I'm hoping to have a decent mix of being productive and relaxing. I could really use some down time with Netflix but also know that I'll feel better if I knock some things off of my To Do list. Would also LOVE to get together with a few of my friends who I haven't seen as often as I wish, been a bit crazy lately.

Thought #3: There are penguins at the Cleveland Zoo for a limited time and I really want to go see them! Penguins are my favorite animals by far and I would love to go see them. Maybe I'll try to go see them this weekend too :)

Thought #4: Listening to stand up on Pandora again to try to keep me going today. One of my favorites, Robin Williams, came up on my station and it made me smile. I love his stuff so much, but then I got sad thinking about his story. Such a great person who has brought so much joy to people, but was fighting demons that no one could understand and overcame him. Really drives home though - you never know what people are going through. They can be all smiles, make others laugh, seem to be in great shape from what you see but be overwhelmed by other things in their life you never imagine or see. Be kind to others. Help others. Try to be understanding, but recognize that you can never truly understand.

Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Welcome to July!

I can't believe that it's July already! This year has gone by very quickly and it's all been such a blur.

I know July is going to be a big month for me, but I'm not quite sure how ready I am for it.

First thing to tackle is this holiday weekend. I am house and pet sitting for a friend's/my second family. The US Women also play in the World Cup Final on Sunday, can't wait for that!

Then next weekend I am headed to Illinois to coach the Ohio North State Team at Regional Camp. I've had a great time with the team and the coaches the past couple weeks at our training sessions and are looking forward to returning to Regional Camp where I played for many years and seeing how this group does.

The week after that will be my last full time week at my current job. The following week I will start my new position full time and will be working to figure out the transition into part time and staying in sync with my current job. That will be a lot going on all at once.

That's the week I will also be house and pet sitting again, different house but same number of pets.

And I'm back on the apartment hunt! Still coordinating with my friend and cousin for timing, location, and such, but I'm really looking for this to happen in the next month or so, so we'll see how that goes...

So July's going to go quick and have a lot going on!

I'm already starting it out a bit rough, got into a rough collision during my soccer game Monday and think I may have pulled some muscles in my chest... it hurts to breath, not fun.


Welcome to July, and hold on tight!

Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Thoughts of the Day - June 30th

Thought #1: It has been one full year now since I returned from my semester abroad in Australia. I've been getting reminded of some amazing memories the past few weeks and I just can't believe it's already been a year since I left. Definitely need to return sometime soon! My coworker actually just got back from a work trip to Sydney and brought us Tim Tams though, so that's awesome :)

Thought #2: I've had about 50 things going on lately and it's just been a lot. I'm starting to get more worn out than I'd care to admit. I've always been super involved and going in 10 different directions and loved it and I can't tell if it's just getting to be too much now because I haven't been used to that the past year or so or if it really is just too much stuff to juggle and I need to cut back. And I hate making decisions, especially when it's cutting something back, so I'm not really sure what I'm going to do there.

Thought #3: I'm sleepy. Been a long couple weeks and so badly just want a day to lie in bed and read or watch Netflix or just a day to relax and paint or something. Hopefully sometime this weekend!

Friday, June 26, 2015

#LOVEWINS


Today is the first time I've been proud of our government in a very long time.
History has been made, and #LoveWins

Thursday, June 25, 2015

Thoughts of the Day - June 25th

Thought #1: It's almost Friday! This week has both flown by and gone horribly slowly at the same time. I'm very much looking forward to this weekend though, so I'm glad it's almost here.

Thought #2: I have so much to do and I keep getting in really good rhythms where I'm motivated and moving through a lot of stuff, but something happens that interrupts me and I completely lose all momentum. Once I get through that interruption my motivation is gone and my to do list just taunts me.

Thought #3: I'm still not sure what I'm doing with my life and sometimes that scares me a bit. I'm learning more and more that even as an adult it's just rolling with it and trying to figure everything out as you go but I had hoped I'd have a bit more of a plan and/or path at this point in my life. Oh well.

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Quito, Ecuador - Part 2 of 2

As we had set the night before, on Sunday we were headed off to the volcano Cotopaxi. We got up early, repacked our backpacks (including the sunscreen!) and met up with our tour guide. The drive was a little over an hour out of the city, through and around the mountains. It was quite foggy on the way out, so it was both scary and fun to look over the edge of the road into what should be a valley but was just cloudy nothingness.

As we got further from the city we noticed two peaks rather close to each other that looked like they could be our destination. The guide informed us that it wasn't where we were going, but that those peaks were to other volcanoes and that he had a good spot along the road that he could stop so we could take some pictures.


Once we climbed back into the car we were back on our way and came around another curve to see a much larger peak, confirmed to be our destination, Cotopaxi.


We were getting close! We drove the rest of the way into the park and stopped at the welcome center. Our guide helped us find a park tour guide that spoke English (Andrej and I can get to where we need to go in Spanish, but neither of us would be what you'd consider fluent), we stocked up on some warm clothes since we were again in a new climate that would include snow and glaciers, and we were off up the side of the volcano! A short drive in we stopped at a lagoon to see some birds and get another look at the road that we would be driving up on our way.


It was very quiet and peaceful here and it was a nice view to get from the ground, as later on we'd get to look back over this lagoon from over 3 miles up.

Once we were finished here Andrej and I stopped to put on some sunblock, just in case, as we were still feeling the pain of our mistake the day before. We climbed back in the truck and this time took a much longer, steeper drive. Our next stop was a parking lot at the base of the trails. We could already feel the temperature difference here and there was a little bit of snow on the ground, making us grateful for the alpaca fur gloves and scarves we had picked up earlier at the start of the park.

We saw two paths headed up toward the peak and asked our guide which we would be taking. He explained that one was very steep and would take us about an hour to climb up, while the other was much more moderate and would take us about 45 minutes. Considering the altitude, the cold, and the fact that we weren't looking to do anything too too crazy we were more than happy to take the moderate track.

 
We took a couple breaks on our way up to catch our breaths and take some pictures. One of my favorites is from when we were about 2/3 of the way up and we paused to look back over the lagoon we had stopped by earlier. It's that little spot in the left hand corner....
 
 


We were starting to get quite tired from the climb and lack of oxygen when we finally got in view of our final stop, the lodge!


It was here that we were promised hot drinks and even soup if we wanted it. I was looking forward to a quick break and something warm as we were in the snow and glaciers at this point and it was quite chilly. We did stop to take some pictures by the sign before we entered the lodge though, we wanted to mark that we had gotten to the top and take note of the fact that the spot we were at was close to 3 miles up.


We took some time to refuel with snacks and water, even going for the warm soup, before we went back outside with the tour guide to stop in the restroom and make our way back down. As we were getting ready to head out we found ourselves inside a cloud. Literally.


Where we had just been able to see for miles and miles and had a good view of the lagoon we now saw nothingness. The change was fast and drastic and really interesting as the cloud also brought snow/hail with it which started falling as we took our first steps down the steep path, the one we hadn't climbed up.

The steep path was the quickest and easiest way to get back down to the parking lot, so it made sense to take it, but I did have a little bit of trouble with it. The ground was very loose and I found myself more sliding/surfing down the hill that climbing or hiking or even walking. At one point I had to stop and Andrej got a picture of me in my surfing stance, in which I was still slowly sliding down.

 
With some help from the tour guide so that I didn't fall on my face and slide down the path, we made it back to where the car was parked. We were out of the cloud and the snow turned to rain so we timed it well and were glad to get under some cover and have heat. On our way down we made an additional stop at the visitors center - there were cool displays about the park and the volcano and our tour guide shared some additional information about the wildlife and surrounding volcanoes and mountains with us. After the displays we went to the other small building at that stop, grabbed a couple souvenirs, did a quick walk around the garden, and headed on our way. We dropped off our park tour guide near the front of the park again and then found ourselves headed back into the city.

We were both tired and agreed to a quick dinner and turning in early for the night. It was back to work the next day and we both needed some down time and to rest up and get ready and refocused again.

Although it was back to work we weren't quite done with our adventures yet. A couple days later we headed to a new part of the city to meet a couple family friends of Andrej's. He had suggested that we meet on La Ronda Street and choose one of the many small restaurants, cafes, and bars to grab dinner. We found it was near the Basilica that we had visited the previous weekend, and that it had it's own charm and a lot of live music and interesting store fronts.


Not the greatest picture, but the only one I thought to take. We found a small restaurant that offered Cuy, as both Andrej and his friend were eager to try the local dish. I personally went with chicken, but both guys ordered 1/4 Cuy, but prepared different ways. We were joking around wondering which quarter they would end up getting when they brought out the plates. One was a hind quarter, you could see the leg, but didn't look too crazy. The other, however, was a front half, skull and all. They had just dropped the whole thing in the deep fryer and served it up just like that. I did try a tiny bite, but was very glad I hadn't ordered it as my meal. (Was quite gamey, and the whole guinea pig skull right on the plate thing just wasn't appetizing to me.)

It was a fun night and a good note to wrap up our adventures on. I headed home on the red eye that Thursday night, while Andrej found himself there over another weekend until the following Tuesday.

Although the change in plans was stressful for me at first, it was really great to be able to see a place that I never thought I would and gain some amazing experiences and memories.

Thoughts of the Day - June 24th

Thought #1:  I am incredibly blessed with some amazing people in my life. I had a fun, relaxing, enjoyable, interesting night last night with my second family (as I call, and truly consider/feel about, my best friend's family) and it was just great to see them again and catch up. We talked BS, real life, and everything in between and it was great. When times get rough I'm always reminded of all these great people that I have around me and that even if everything else is going wrong I can get through it just on that.

Thought #2: Speaking of amazing people, I have a friend who I met online through a blog I used to write for and I am so very grateful for her. I know some people will scoff when they read about making friends online, but we've really connected and have been communicating a lot through email lately and it's really great. We're both going through some similar things right now and we've been able to have some important and powerful discussions about different things and I really appreciate that we have that.

Thought #3: I LOVE THIS WEATHER. It's been between 70 and 80 and sunny and just absolutely beautiful the past few days and it just boosts my mood so much from the start of the day all the way through. It's cool enough and there's a nice breeze to have the windows down in the car, it cools of nicely at night, but the sun is warm, and it's just really contributing to me feeling wonderful the past couple days, even with stressing about a lot right now.

Thought #4: I am terrible with gifts... well, to clarify, with being on time with gifts. I'd like to think I actually give good gifts that people like, but they're never early and lately not even close to on time. Like I always have ideas for what I want to do and make notes for myself not to forget and to get them together early, but I never do, it's terrible! Put together a really nice gift for my dad for Father's Day and it's shipping late (I have to argue that this one's not my fault, I did it in plenty of time and the company I went through took 2x as long to create it as they said they would and shipped it 4 days after they let me know it was ready to ship), but still I feel absolutely terrible that he doesn't have his gift yet and I didn't have anything nice to give him this past Sunday. Although it should have been on time with the guidelines given to me by the company, I still feel bad because if I had ordered it far earlier, it still would have been on time most likely. And my sister got married almost a month ago now and I planned to give her the gift the week following the ceremony, but it's still sitting in pieces on my desk. I know what it is, have all the individual pieces ready to go, I just haven't put it together yet. My Godmother is getting married this weekend, I know exactly what I'm getting/making her, but guess what I haven't done yet? Gahhhh! Curse me and my procrastination.

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Thoughts of the Day - June 23rd

Thought #1: I got to walk around a lot today and it was great. Helped set up for a pancake breakfast at my Aunts' church this morning, went for a walk at lunch time, and had to go over to a different building on my work campus today for meeting this afternoon. Almost at my FitBit steps for the day already and I'm hoping to go for a run later tonight, so should hit my goal today! Hooray!

Thought #2: I'm realizing quickly that even though a few big things have fallen into place lately I still have a lot of decisions coming up on me quickly. Gah. Being an adult can really be exhausting sometimes, ya know?

Thought #3: The USA won last night! We're on our way to the quarterfinal match against China this Friday! I was a bit concerned watching the first half, but we pulled through and finished up the second half strong. Colombia played a great game, and even when they were hurt by their keeper having to leave, kept their spirit and played well. It was an entertaining game, I think that we have a long way to go if we want to win this tournament though. If all goes well and we win Friday we'll play either Germany or France in the semis, and either will be a very formidable opponent.

Thought #4: Woke up super early this morning and have felt great all day. I'm waiting for the minute when I completely crash haha, I know it's coming!

Thought #5: I'm on another hunt for new music. I have a few different ways I go about discovering new stuff but if anyone has any suggestions I love hearing recommendations from people so just let me know what to check out!

Monday, June 22, 2015

Quito, Ecuador - Part 1 of 2

Finally got around to writing this adventure up and getting in on here! Hooray!

So back in March I headed off to Quito on a work trip. We had gotten a new client in the city and we were off on a 3 day trip to get them up and running.

Once we arrived things went very well, and very quickly, and we found that we needed to stay an extra couple days to take care of everything and round out the trip. At the end of day four we realized we were off again - we'd need to be back the following week in order to really get things where we wanted them to be. Now, typically we'd just head home for the weekend and then turn around to come back Sunday afternoon or early Monday morning. That kind of turn around is challenging when you're on a different continent though. We would have had to take the red eye home Friday night, not gotten home until close to noon on Saturday, and been on a plan again at 2pm Sunday. Not exactly a fun weekend, and a lot of stress and almost 24 hours of travel. Made much more sense for us, time and money wise, just to hang out in Quito for the weekend. It was also great because we got to explore a bit!

Now, as you know if you know me, or may have picked up on if you've read previous posts, I am a very anxious person. This change of plans did throw me off a bit, but once I recovered I was able to really enjoy the incredible weekend that we had.

It had been a very long work week full of early morning and late nights so our first decision was to sleep in a little bit on Saturday. We didn't want to waste our precious time to explore, but we also didn't want to feel dead as we had the past few days. We agreed on a happy medium and a time to meet, and talked to the tour company that was housed in our hotel. Our destinations for Saturday would be the Equator and the Historical Center of the city.

We packed our backpacks with a few snacks and some water and headed out! We found out that for our visit to the Equator there were actually 2 stops - the first was a museum and the actual physical location of the equator, the second was the monument for the equator. When the monument was first built, in 1936, they used their most precise measurements and were off by a couple hundred feet. With our modern GPS systems the actual equator is marked at the museum, but the fact that they were so close without the technology that we're so used to is pretty cool to me.



Once we went through the exhibits with our guide, saw the demonstrations of water rotating different ways on either side of the equator, and tried our hand at balancing an egg on the head of a nail, we got a special stamp in our Passports and headed off to explore the monument and the not-quite-actual Equator.

Now, side note, Quito is actually in the Andes mountains. Not like you can see them from the city, it's built in/on the mountains themselves. It's absolutely gorgeous and I love the mountains so I was ecstatic with our surroundings.

Once we got to the park with the monument we walked around the monument and took some pictures. There were all sorts of shops and restaurants within the park as well, so we stopped and had a good lunch and grabbed some souvenirs to take home with us.


As we were finishing up and walking out we came across a restaurant that was selling full Cuy on a spit outside. I remembered learning this when I studied Spanish and we did various culture projects, but it didn't really occur to me until we saw this that Guinea pig is a common food in the Andes regions. My coworker Andrej was eager to try some, but I wasn't really into it. Sadly for him they were only selling the whole thing, and we had already eaten, so he would have to wait to try Cuy.

From the monument we headed back to our hotel in search of cleaning up a bit and refilling our snacks and water. We hadn't realized that the afternoon portion in the Historical Center of the City was a separate thing so we worked out timing and such with the tour guide to solidify the rest of our day and then agreed to meet after a short break. It was during this drive back and our short break that Andrej and I realized how sun burned we had gotten. Now, in our defense, it had rained non stop since 20 minutes after we had landed the Sunday before. When we went to pick up some supplies for the weekend we grabbed umbrellas, but neglected sunblock. Naturally, the first sunny day we experienced was while we were up in the mountains literally on the Equator. I have never burned so badly in my entire life. I was a lobster. On our way out we quickly agreed to go get after sun and sun black and lotion from the K-Mart-like store that we had found a block and a half away.

It was a quick ride through the city to get to our first stop, the Basilica del Voto Nacional. We didn't realize we could at first, but we ended up climbing to the very top of one of the towers and getting an amazing outlook point. This was an interested climb as I am terrified of heights, but love being in high places once I'm there and feel secure. Andrej hates heights, but is okay getting to and from them. I was shaking on the way up the steep ladders and across not-super-secure walkways, Andrej was not comfortable while we were at the top looking around, and I had a very challenging time convincing myself to climb down said steep ladders. Even so, the view from the top of that climb was incredible and so beautiful (and worth it).

 
After we were done exploring the Basilica we headed to our next stop at the center of the historical district. The traffic getting there was slightly crazy...
 


Once we found somewhere to park we headed out to the grid of streets and explored for a bit. Right in the middle was the Independence Monument, and the entire grid around it was packed with people and shops and the hustle and bustle of city life and food traffic. Everyone was out and about and enjoying the beautiful sunny day. We were even able to see up the street to the angel statue that we saw from the top of the Basilica.


After we got back to the hotel we took a quick walk to the K-Mart type store, picked up our sun burn supplies, some more water, a quick dinner, and were ready to sleep and rest up for the next day's adventure. We had decided to head to a volcano about an hour away, Cotopaxi, and we knew we'd need our energy!

Post about Day 2 and our hike up a volcano to follow!

Thoughts of the Day - June 22nd

Bit of a crazy weekend, didn't get to write up any posts as I had hoped, but considering how lousy I'm feeling I'll probably have a pretty calm evening of lying down and drinking copious amounts of Sprite to calm my stomach, so maybe I'll get some taken care of then.

Thought #1: Stomach bugs really stink. It sucks being sick in general, and I'm a true believer that we never really appreciate breathing through our noses until we are unable to for an extended period of time, but a stomach bug just has you down and out from almost everything. I have a work call, but I'm dealing with a stomach bug, it's not like I can still sit on the call and just mute myself so no one else hears my sniffling. I'm running back and forth and can only catch parts of what's going on and I'm just miserable and it stinks.

Thought #2: I guess I'm whiney today because I also wanted to make a comment about how I'm always cold...

Thought #3: Go USA! The Womens' National Soccer Team is playing in the first knock-out round of the Women's World Cup tonight against Colombia. Huge soccer fan, played since I was 3, super excited! Had been very much hoping to go to a B-Dubs to watch with a friend but, referring back to Thought #1, we'll see if things calm down in the next couple hours for that to be doable...

Thought #4: I very much phase in and out of being good at communicating and staying in touch with people. I'll be great for a few weeks and always respond to messages and emails and such but then I'll have  period of time where I just don't. And it's not like anything is wrong or I'm mad at people or anything, I just kind of fade out for a little while and then jump back in. Not really sure why, but it just happens. The same thing will probably happen with this blog and these types of posts too.

Friday, June 19, 2015

Thoughts of the Day - June 19th

Thought #1: I've been reflecting a lot the past few days on what has made me happy in the past and how I can bring those things back into my life. Sometimes I wonder why I am so hesitant to go back to things I love, but I think that's something a lot of people do. We feel like we did it and should move on now, or that other's won't approve of it as much as trying something else, or for any number of reasons we just don't go for it. I am one who tends to overcomplicate things, but I guess if you really look at it, find what makes you happy and do it. There you go. It can take work, but if you focus on that I'd like to think we can get there one day.

Thought #2: Gotta love that Pandora has to have a little recorded message before you start certain stations that tell you it might offend you and remind you that you do, in fact, have the freedom to change the station whenever you want to. Like I get if it's super explicit and you want to just give a "if you have your kids in the car don't listen to this!" warning, but just reminding you that they're not forcing you to listen to it seems a little over the top. I know it's a liability thing in this day and age, but.....

Thought #3: Comedians are amazing people. Now, when listening to stand up, I don't get offended easily. Sometimes I think humor is a great way to approach difficult issues and just laugh about how crappy the world can be sometimes. But the fact that there are people who spend there lives entertaining and making people laugh is a wonderful thing in the world.

Thought #4: IT'S FRIDAY!

"On the other side of fear lies freedom"

 I'm a big quote person. I'll look them up online, write down my favorites from books and movies, pick out my favorite song lyrics, all of it. When I find a string of words that expresses something that I either feel but can never express as well, or that inspires me or reminds me of something important I really latch onto it and turn back to it when I need to.


A quote that I found today by chance really hit home:
 

If you've read my Thoughts of the Day - June 12th post you saw that something I've been trying to do the last year or so is consciously face my fears. I do have to say my fear of heights has been the one to produce the most tangible, reflect-able results, but I have tried to do so in other circumstances as well.

As someone who has severe anxiety this is a huge challenge for me a lot of times. When I face down my fears I'm not just looking at something that makes me a bit nervous, or that I've maybe had a bad experience with, I'm looking at it with all of those logical things in the back of my mind, but also a chorus of 1000 other things shouting irrational reasons at me for why I shouldn't do what I'm trying to do. Things that are #1 completely out of my control, so there's really no reason I should spend so much time on them, and #2 are no where nearly as severe as my brain tries to make them out to be. It can be a bit overwhelming.

But with that, I love this quote so much because it's so true and strikes a chord deep within me. If we had no fears we wouldn't limit ourselves nearly as much as we tend to do. We would allow ourselves to have so many more amazing experiences that we now shut ourselves down from because we're afraid of what may happen if we pursue them. We let fear take away from our freedom.

I try to avoid as many regrets as possible, so I try to limit the things that I let my fears decide for me. I want to gain the freedom that comes with overcoming fears, or at least standing up and staring them in the eye as you face them down and win.

I wish you the same - find the freedom beyond the fear.

Thursday, June 18, 2015

Thought of the Day - June 18th - Working Under Pressure

Today I really just have one main thought that has carried over since a I needed to fill a short-timeframe request from my boss this morning. I was a bit concerned I wasn't going to be able to make the deadline, but in the end I did and it went well.

The relief and pride that I felt after completing the task in the short amount of time and under pressure reminded me of an interesting discussion I had with one of my psychology professors on procrastination.

I don't know about any of you, but I am a chronic procrastinator. "Why put off until tomorrow what can be put off until the day after tomorrow." kind of person. Not really intentionally, it's just a bad habit that I slipped into a long time ago. At first I said it was just because I work best under pressure; I've played soccer my entire life and I honestly feel at my best when everything is moving quickly and I execute well at the exact moment I need to. It's a rush.

But let's stop and think about that rush for a second - it's the happiness we get from success, compounded with the fact that we found success under tight restrictions. Go us!

Applying that rush out to procrastination, we find that procrastination reinforces itself. 'Wait, what? Having to pull an all-nighter to finish my paper shouldn't reinforce itself, I'm tired and this sucks!' Right? Wrong. Sure, the whole not sleeping thing sucks, and you have to deal with the consequences later, but you also see the consequences of the work you did during that night of no sleep. You got the paper done before it was due, turned it in on time, and hey, when you got it back you see you even got a B+! Let's pull out the positive feelings from this situation:
1) I finished it! It's done! I did it!
2) It was hard work, but here I am handing it in on time just like I was supposed to.
3) I did what it took to complete it, even though it meant not sleeping. I did well under pressure!
[Note - we never seem to really ponder that the pressure was created by our own choice to procrastinate....]
4) I got a B+! That's pretty good, and just imagine if I hadn't waited until the last minute, I'll have to try that next time.

Next time - hey, I got a B+ last time, I don't have to worry about starting super early this time either....

So the cycle continues!


It is true that there are people who perform best under pressure, the adrenaline and energy it brings get them fired up and rolling better than a more relaxed atmosphere. Keep in mind, though, that you can't always be under tons of pressure or you're going to get caught eventually, pressure is good, consistent heavy pressure can be crushing.

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Thoughts of the Day - June 17th

Wow, I'm on a roll, this is the third day in a row I've posted a 'thoughts of the day' on the actual day! Woo hoo!

Thought #1: I am considering finding something I want to talk about and vlogging. I've never done a ton of video editing, but what I've done I've enjoyed and it just seems like an interesting challenge to take on. I'll think about it, it's probably going to take me forever to come up with a topic anyway.

Thought #2: Especially as someone who studied psychology I find it interesting how we latch on to certain people right when we meet them and yet it could take quite a bit of time for us to really be okay with another person we meet. Relationships, of any degree, are interesting.

Thought #3: Today's thoughts are short and more to the point than the last couple days. If anyone is actually reading this I am curious if that is better or if the longer ones are better.

Thought #4: I'm very sleepy and need some caffeine if I'm going to be able to stay awake and focus on anything the rest of the day. Going to definitely stop and grab some more tea.

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Where I’ve Been/Where I Wish to Go


I discovered this really cool, yet potentially dangerous to my focus, tool on Google Drive the other day. You can create a “My Maps” and put pins in places and do all sorts of color coding and cool things.
I started playing around with it and decided to make note of all the places I have traveled (using green pins); I’m guessing I’ve missed some, but I think I got most of them in there. I only counted places I’ve actually spent time in, not including driving or flying through when I just saw the airport.

Once I did that I started the monumental task of putting red colored pins in the places that I wish to one day travel to. Now this I’m sure I’ve missed some of, but I tried to cover as large of a portion of them as I could. There are so many things that I hope to one day see – the red pins mark the places that would be entirely new to me, but I also want to note that of the places I have been there are many things that I have yet to experience that I would also one day like to.

My big picture travel bucket list includes going to every continent (yes, including Antarctica) and all 50 US States. So far I’m at 3 continents and 19 US States, so not a bad start, but definitely a lot left to get to.

Combined with this and my love for color coding one day I may even prioritize these pins for where I want to get to most all the way down to if I do great, but if not I’d be the least upset.

On this note I’ll probably get started on some of my travel posts soon – I have a backlog of stories and photos from my trips to San Francisco, Vegas, Phoenix, and Quito at a minimum that I’d love to share.

I'm always itching for new adventures and am a shutter bug, so I look forward to what other places I can explore in the future!

Until then - TTFN

Thoughts of the Day - June 16th & A Big Week in Sports

The USA Women's National Soccer Team wraps up their group play for the WWC tonight with a game against Nigeria. With a win they're definitely through, with a tie or loss it will depend on a lot of other factors and how others do. Hoping they just win and keep the path forward clear.

The Cavs also have game 6 tonight, back home in Cleveland. If they lose, they're done and the title is Golden State's, but if they win they keep it alive and return to Oakland for Game 7. I am still 100% #ALLINCLE and believe in them - they got this!

And last night the Blackhawks brought home the Cup! I'm not the best follower of hockey, I've always been a Chicago fan since Cleveland hasn't had a team in so long, but I like to keep up with how things are going and catch the games when I can, so I'm quite happy with that!

So it's been quite the couple weeks in sports for me! I'm a huge soccer fan and have played since I was 3, so the Women's World Cup was naturally very exciting for me and I've been enjoying it greatly. Fingers still crossed that the Cavs bring home the title, this city could use it and they've really shown what they can do, even without Varejao, Love, AND Kyrie.

But back to my thoughts of the day:

Thought #1: Sometimes I read a book and I love the ideas and creativity in it so much that it frustrates me how it's written. Like there's a great concept in it that I latch on to so much and find fascinating but just feel like the author didn't really do it justice as they could have. Does anyone else experience this?

Thought #2: I need to get back to taking pictures more often. I enjoy photography so much yet find myself pulled away from it far too frequently while trying to keep up with everything else in life. I need to get better at prioritizing what I have fun doing and helps me de-stress about that 'everything else in life' that I'm trying to keep up with.

Thought #3: I miss my long hair. I chopped 8 inches off a little over a month ago now and when I first did it I didn't miss it at all, but in this super-humid weather I'm so used to being able to braid my hair so it doesn't get all frizzy but I can't do that any more :( It is definitely much easier and quicker to straighten or curl it, but I don't often have the patience to do that anyway and with it shorter I have less options for how to put it up and out of the way. I know, I know - it will grow back.



I hope to get either my Quito or San Fran posts together tonight with some pictures to post!

Monday, June 15, 2015

Thoughts of the Day - June 15th

Thoughts of the day (actually from today!)

Thought #1: Continuation from my thoughts from Friday on facing your fears - I did so again yesterday. Same fear, fear of heights, faced during a relatively intense ropes course. I knew going in that some of the obstacles would be quite a challenge for me - like the Tarzan Swing where you drop four feet before the cord catches you and swings you into a net, or the Zip Line itself where you fly across a long stretch attached to just a single cable. Forcing myself off of those platforms into those falls took a good bit of willpower, but they were amazingly fun and I would do them again in a heartbeat. Plus, I'm pretty sure there's some pretty amusing facial expressions that got captured during the course, so extra entertainment to enjoy later!

Thought #2: "Things happen for a reason." It's a bit corny, and I oftentimes go back to the "sometimes the reason is that you're stupid and made a bad choice," but sometimes I see that things can work out well, even if the reason just is that they do. Woke up late for my flight out last Tuesday, it was delayed by just over the amount I had overslept. Sweet. Was supposed to start something new today, got pushed back. I had felt rushed into it, so the extra time for me to prepare for it is nice. It may not be because of a certain "reason," but it is nice that these things worked out how they did.

Thought #3: All friends are different friends. I was talking about this with someone recently and really realized the truth of it - you have your friends that you go to if you're having problem 'ABC,' but a different one that you would go to to talk about 'XYZ.' You have your friends that you always have a great time with, but aren't necessarily getting into heavy life talks with. All friends are different friends, and play important roles in your life in their own way.

Thought #4: Heard on the radio this morning how we invest more in our relationships where we get less investment from the other person than in the ones where the other person is full in. (Kind of makes sense if you think about it, kind of an evil circle. Annie invests more time in Bob than me, making me invest more time in her than Bob, who invests more time in me than in Annie. It never ends!) I thought about it for a while and found a few examples in my life where this holds true, and I hope to remain aware of this and try to change that up, I'd much rather invest in the people who invest in me and build stronger relationships there than continue to chase after others who it's not really working with.

Thoughts of the Day - June 12th

*Apparently I don't know how to make the timer work on this thing yet, so although I meant for this to publish Friday night it did not, so here are some thoughts from a few days ago....



A friend of mine recommended that I try these "thoughts of the day" posts, so here it goes!

Thought #1: I have been traveling a lot for work and there is one pet peeve that I have gained in airports - bathroom doors. I rarely come across doors that open out, a large majority of them open in. Now let's think about most of the people in airports, they're carrying at least one bag, often times wheeling around a carry on bag as well. You know what's difficult to maneuver into a tiny bathroom stall? A carry on bag. You know what makes it even more difficult? When the door opens in, limiting the space you have and forcing you to practically climb into the toilet to get you and your bag far enough in to close the door. Why can't all the doors just open out?

Thought #2: We should consciously face our fears more often. I have an intense fear of heights. Two of my favorite travel experiences have come from facing that fear and doing something that required a lot of climbing and being in high places for extended periods of time. And besides the amazing experiences do you know what else I got? A feeling of invincibility immediately following, and a little rush of self confidence when I look at those pictures. I faced a fear, I knew what I was getting into and did it anyway, and not only was it amazing, but I conquered it. I'm hoping to extend this to other, smaller things in my life where taking on something minimal, yet to me scary, can build my confidence and open me up to new experiences and enrich my life.
From the top of Basilica del Voto Nacional in Quito, Ecuador
We had to climb over rickety boards and up very steep, open stepped ladders to get here and I was literally shaking by the time we got to the top. (And yes, climbing down was even worse). So very very worth it though.

En route to the top of the Sydney Harbor Bridge
I almost didn't go on this climb with the friends I was traveling with because of my fear of heights. I sucked it up and did it anyway and it's one of the best decisions I've ever made.


Thought #3: I make a lot of lists. I enjoy organizing things and making to do lists and just other lists and I need somewhere to compile or keep these lists. They just end up in random notebooks and planners and places and they don't really end up doing me much good when they end up hiding so well. Something else I should work on.



Such intense thoughts for the day, haha. We'll see what tomorrow brings!

Friday, June 12, 2015

Welcome/Bienvenida/Willkommen


To say I’ve wanted to start a blog for a long time but was never sure where to start or what to call it would be largely cliché and entirely truthful.

I’ve always written. When I was younger I’d write and draw out short stories that my family would humor me by reading, as I got into middle school I decided to create and write a newsletter for myself and some of my classmates, then I sort of stopped sharing what I was writing. I never stopped writing itself, I just turned it a bit more inward than it had been in the past. Writing became a way for me to get my thoughts out of the jumble of my head and somewhere where I could potentially start to see a pattern or sort them out otherwise. Since then, I started to write for others in a couple instances – I blogged my semester abroad in Australia, I wrote for the Student Leader Collective for close to a year, I even took a couple creative writing classes. With each of those I let little bits of personal writing slip in – a bit of an emotional leadership post about how much my leadership experiences meant to me, a blog about a trip that contained photos I was truly proud of as an aspiring photographer, a short story that shared some dark secrets even if no one knew they were such.

Since those things have wrapped up though I’ve been itching to get back onto some sort of platform to share some sort of writing, maybe even things that aren’t such a set topic and just whatever I feel like talking about, however personal or not, deep or superficial, anything at all. That’s where this comes in, yay new blog!

I’m not sure what all I will be putting up here or how frequently I will be posting. My thoughts right now do include some book review-y type posts, looking back on travel experiences, personal what’s going on, and just other random bits of life. May not sound great, and may not end up great, but I am excited to try it out and see where this takes me.

In fact, I am currently reading “If You Feel Too Much” by Jamie Tworkowski, the founder of TWLOHA. I started it on the plane down to Mexico City (work trip) and got about halfway through – I hope to finish it this week or on the plane ride home on Friday. I have a feeling that it will definitely turn into a blog post in the near future.

I’ve also done quite a bit of traveling in the past 8 or so months that I’ve never really shared stories from that I would love to get out there - those will probably get queued up soon too.

The fact is, as I’m writing this post I’m reinforcing my own desire to have this blog and to start writing things to share with others again. I’m getting excited and hope that if there’s anyone even reading this that you are too.

So with that, let’s make today great and do what we can to be kind to and help others.

 

From Mexico City - TTFN